How to find out about the legal and court process
When your parents split up, it can feel confusing and scary—especially if you hear words like “court” or “legal process.”
You might be wondering: What does it all mean? Will I have a say? Where can I find answers without all the complicated legal talk?
Here are some simple starting points, tips, and places to go for more help.
Tips to Help You Understand the Legal Process
1. Ask questions.
If adults use words you don’t understand, it’s okay to say: “Can you explain that more simply?” You deserve to know what’s going on in a way that makes sense to you.
2. You have a voice.
You have the right to be included in decisions that affect you. In the UK, Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) often talks to children and shares their views with the judge. Judges want to know how you feel, even though they are the ones to make the final decision.
3. Focus on what affects you.
You don’t need to learn every legal detail – just the bits that impact your day-to-day life, like where you’ll live, when you’ll see each parent, and how you’ll stay in touch.
4. Don’t carry it alone.
If you’re worried or confused, share how you’re feeling with someone you trust – a friend, a teacher, a family member, or a safe adult.
5. Use trusted websites.
Not everything on the internet is reliable. Stick to official or trusted organisations (see links below).
Helpful Websites & Resources
Explains in simple language what happens when the family court is involved, and how Cafcass helps children share their views.
NACCC (National Association of Child Contact Centres)
Has some great videos and information
Lots of great information as well as a place to chat with someone online or on the phone for free about anything you’re feeling. They explain separation in clear words too.
Tips on coping with your emotions and changes when your family splits up.
Split Happens is a safe, supportive online space for you to find answers and advice and to feel heard. Yuni is your friendly AI helper, ready to answer your questions. Unlike many other AI tools, Yuni has been trained from trusted, expert-approved sources and Yuni uses this to give you reliable answers, powered by real stories from young people who’ve been through similar things.
It’s normal to feel nervous about “legal stuff.” You don’t need to know everything – just enough to feel safe and heard. Remember: you have the right to ask questions, to have your feelings listened to, and to be supported through it all.