“My whole sense of self shattered” – Rediscovering my identity after my parents split
I was eleven when my parents told me they were separating. Until that moment I believed they had the perfect relationship. I knew about the arguments, but I didn’t realise the extent of years of the pain or the infidelity that my siblings had protected me from. When the truth finally surfaced, it felt like […]
What to do when a parent lies: Recovering from your parents’ separation when cheating or lies are involved
When your parents break up, it can feel really confusing and upsetting. It is fairly normal to hear different versions of what happened from each parent. This doesn’t always mean someone is lying—they might just see things differently. But sometimes, one or both parents do lie, especially if cheating was part of the reason they […]
8 tips to help get back in touch with you
Reclaiming your identity after your parents split We know that when your parents separate, it can feel as though the ground has been pulled out from beneath you. One young person told us, “My whole sense of self shattered… suddenly that was gone, and with it I felt as though my sense of self had […]
How to Spot Red Flags & Green Flags in Relationships
A Guide for Young People If you grew up with separated parents, you might worry that all relationships are destined to fail, but your parents’ relationship doesn’t define your own. You have the ability to learn relationship skills and make choices that lead to healthy, supportive, and lasting relationships in all areas of your life. […]
Why You Should Tell a Friend About Split Happens
It can be hard to know how to support a friend if their parents split If your mate’s parents have split up, it can be hard to know what to say or how to help. Being a friend who can listen when someone wants to talk is a brilliant help. To enable that to happen, […]
Should I Forgive? Is Forgiveness Even Relevant to Me?
Divorce is rough. When parents split, they make choices that can totally shake up your life. Even if they try to put you first, it’s almost impossible not to feel hurt along the way. It’s normal to feel angry, sad, or just totally confused. So… what do you do with all that pain? Should you […]
How to Introduce Your Direction to Your Children
If you’re thinking about encouraging your child to try Your Direction, you might already know the biggest challenge: teenagers don’t always follow what their parents suggest! Even when you’re offering something helpful, it can feel like whatever you suggest gets dismissed. So how do you actually get them to give the course a chance? First, […]
What to do when a parent lies: Recovering from your parents’ separation when cheating or lies are involved
When your parents break up, it can feel really confusing and upsetting. It is fairly normal to hear different versions of what happened from each parent. This doesn’t always mean someone is lying—they might just see things differently. But sometimes, one or both parents do lie, especially if cheating was part of the reason they […]
Eldest Daughter Syndrome: The Unseen Heroes in Divorce Recovery
In the realm of modern family dynamics, a colloquial term has emerged with both a humorous and poignant undertone: the ‘Eldest Daughter Syndrome’. This phrase captures the unique and often under appreciated role played by the eldest daughters in divorced families. While it’s sometimes spoken about with a light-hearted chuckle, the reality for many eldest […]
Surviving Heartbreak After Your Parents’ Divorce
When your parents’ marriage ends, it can feel like the ground underneath your feet has cracked open. Even as an adult, their divorce can stir up emotions you may not have expected, like grief, anger and confusion. Your parents’ divorce might even make you question your views on love, trust and relationships, or you may […]