Who Am I Now?
Has your parents’ separation shaken your sense of identity? Are you worried about repeating their mistakes? Their split does not define who you are.
The resources on this page help you think about your own identity and answer ‘who am I now?’.
In my own relationship, I’ll have moments where I think to myself like, I’m behaving like my mother, need to not do that. And I kind of like regulate myself.
Alice, Your Direction participant
I think that’s a common fear when you’re an adult of separated parents. At the back of your head, you’re always just trying to avoid those tendencies of, I guess, being similar to your parents.
Lauren, Your Direction participant
I need my own money. I’m not gonna be a stay at home mom, even if I did become a mom. just, I can’t have this happen
Anya, Your Direction participant
It was a turning point, because it was the first time that I said to myself that, you’re acting a little bit like your dad. And I didn’t want that. I hated that. That I didn’t want to be anything like my dad.
James, Your Direction participant
I feel like a lot of my behaviors are heavily influenced by what happened. But currently, I know that this part of my life is behind me.
Micah, Your Direction participant
Even if you feel like the world has been pulled out from under you, you can reclaim your sense of self and decide what you want to be like going forward. In this article we explore eight tips for finding your feet again.
Express yourself
A great way to explore how you feel and what you think is journaling. Keeping a journal can help you try out ideas, spot patterns and express how you are feeling in private. We’ve created 30 journal prompts to get you started.
Mia’s experience of her parents’ breakup is helping to make her own marriage stronger. She speaks about choosing to get help and to trust again. She’s determined that she won’t be defined by the end of her parents’ marriage.
Continue your journey
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